Hey, Mom and Dad: Is It OK to Ask Your Kids to Grab You a Beer?
Parents, Patch wants to hear from you on the questions that get families talking. This week we're wondering: Is it wrong to ask your youngster to grab you a brewski?
Welcome to "Hey, Mom and Dad"—a weekly feature in which we ask our Facebook fans to share their views on parenting. We're starting off with a question we posed last week on the Patch Facebook pages:
After a long day, the head honcho in your household is exhausted and wants to kick back with a cold one. But should a kid be the one to hand it off?
Is it wrong to ask your kid to grab you a beer?
Take a look at what people had to say and join the conversation in the Comments section.
Jennifer Valdez: Fetch a beer NO. ... Go make mommy her favorite martini YES —Palos Patch Facebook
Michel Kiwi-Popyk: I say yes. it's a rule for me. no kid gets alcohol around here. the crazy thing is i remember "making" drinks for my dad. but just can't do it in today's age. —Homewood-Flossmoor Patch Facebook
Roger Krieg: Kids want what they can't have. If they get used to beer being around, they are less likely to want it. —Lemont Patch Facebook
Tim Pursell: What? like if you get your own beer it's somehow "better" parenting? It's no different than asking YOUR OWN child to bring you some water or a can of pop. I'm not asking your child to "fetch" a beer. —Homewood-Flossmoor Patch Facebook
Angelica Gonzalez Rodriguez: Kids should not be getting that for the grown-ups. When they want something to drink they get up themselves and get their own juice box. So we should do the same. —Chicago Heights Patch Facebook
Denise DuVernay: As far back as I can remember, my parents didn't have a problem with that sort of thing, including giving me tastes. I think it was a good thing. For me, it normalized beer and prevented taboo from forming. (I was also allowed to taste wine and Tom & Jerry on holidays and was given brandy for insomnia, none of which I enjoyed). So for me, there wasn't much mystery around alcohol, whereas my friends who whose parents kept alcohol forbidden were the ones who did the binge drinking. —Orland Park Patch Facebook
Dave Weinert: Lorraine, YOU may arrived at adulthood well-adjusted, and many others as well, but some kids were desensitized to alcohol by a loved one, an authority figure no less, basically giving benign approval. They often become the kids that then 'sneak' a couple of cans or a random bottle under the bleachers or into the park...when they are maybe fourteen. From there on, a life of potentially bad decisions isn't guaranteed, but you have to think that some of those kids didn't just randomly decide to drink after having examples that behaved otherwise. —Oak Lawn Patch Facebook
Missy Goodman: In your own home, to bring an unopened beer from the fridge or cooler, sure. But outside of home, obviously it's illegal. —Frankfort Patch Facebook
Joan Hoye Bravo: Not okay to have the child fetch you a beer. If you have to drink, then I would think that you could get up and retrieve it for yourself. Why involve the children? —Oak Forest Patch Facebook